My dad always told me if you don't know where to start, you should start at the beginning. I guess the beginning for me is why we've decided to try Domestic Discipline in our marriage.
S and I have been married almost nine years now. We married very young, and like most marriages, after the "honeymoon" period was over, and we actually had to live together, it wasn't easy! We both had careers, and there was an instant family to adjust to, as I had a child from a previous relationship.
After about the five year mark, we were fighting so much we couldn't stand each other. I had a demanding job, which I took out on poor S, and he was completely unchallenged at work, and more often than not, felt like the house husband. Pride is something we all struggle with :)
Around the time I was laid off, I uttered the D word. It really woke up both of us to the issues in our marriage, and what had contributed to them. Ultimately we decided that we would try changing the roles in our marriage and see what happened from there! We had both always wanted a more traditional marriage, but we'd never really talked about it, so after a long series of conversations, we settled on DD. It's had it's ups and downs, but four years later, we're better than ever. We haven't fought in years, although we do disagree from time to time.
For the past four years, while we've halfheartedly "practised" DD, we've never had consistent rules, or punishments. S, having been raised by a single mom, has a hard time, as he should honestly, thinking he may hurt me. Since I've now settled into being a stay at home mom, we've decided to incorporate DD into our everyday lives, rather than just here and there when I've been especially bratty!
I decided, with his permission, that I wanted to start blogging about our day to day experience with incorporating DD full time in our marriage, which is what brought me here. I've been reading a few other blogs, and I've pointed him towards a couple as well, which I'll be linking with their permission eventually. Until then, I guess it's just me and whoever happens to stumble across my blog in the wee hours of the morning. I plan to blog every day or so, I guess we'll just see how often I have something to talk about! I'm completely open to questions to, but I ask that any comments or question be respectful. I don't bash the way other people choose to live, and I'm sure we'd all appreciate the same consideration.
- R
Welcome to blogland! I'm looking forward to reading your blog.
ReplyDelete-Chelsea
Welcome to blogging! I just started doing it a while ago too!
ReplyDeleteBonnie linked to your blog so you should start getting some readers.
ReplyDeleteYou might want to start a followers list on your blog.
You are off to a good start and want to welcome you to the world of blogging where you can be very candid and share your lifestyle with likeminded people.
FD
Welcome to Blogland, RS! I think you'll find you really enjoy blogging; it's a great community and wonderful to be able to discuss these things! I look forward to hearing more from you!
ReplyDeleteWelcome to blogland! Like the others said, it's a great community and a great outlet to discuss DD and such. Look forward to reading more from you :)
ReplyDeleteWelcome. Your father was right. You start at the beggining, and for all of us 'spanko's, it begins with an 'end'. A blushing end. I like the way you write, very smooth and easy. Please continue so. You state that you like Josh Grogan, the singer. His, hit song, "You Raise me Up" is musically a masterpiece.
ReplyDeleteForget money. Sex will take care of itself. The one thing two people need to discuss before they get serious about their relationship is what to do when the girlfriend/wife needs her bare bottom spanked. The time's going to come. No two people on this earth are so perfectly compatible as to never need to straighten things out.
ReplyDeleteThese talks aren't as easy as they were only a few generations ago. Back when grandparents of today's younger generation were dating, and thinking they were the first generation to discover sex, most young women had some experience over their father's knee. Girls knew what to expect. As a result, getting spanked by a serious boyfriend wasn't the big deal it became after "domestic violence" became a politically charged dysphemism for spanking.
That's not the case these days. Many young women grow up being raised by their single, and frequently divorced, mothers. They may never have had a father active in their life. Nor, as often the case, has their mother ever really spanked them. Thus, they have absolutely no idea what it feels like to lose panties, control, and composure over a man's lap.
Yet, if statistics suggest that rates of marriage and subsequent divorce are inversely proportional to the acceptance of traditional domestic discipline. As a result, having the discussion is of paramount importance.